How to Handle Disappearing Acts in the Dating World

Dear Flirt Zone,

I’ve been dating this guy for about two months, and things seemed to be going great. We had tons in common, shared many laughs, and even started planning a weekend getaway together. But then, out of the blue, he just vanished like a magician’s assistant in a puff of smoke! No calls, no texts, nada. I’m ghosted and confused. What did I do wrong? How do I handle this disappearing act and move on with my life?

Sincerely, Haunted by the Ghosted

Dear High Standards, 

Hey there, Haunted by the Ghosted!

First off, take a deep breath, and let me tell you that you’re not alone. Ghosting is as common in the dating world as avocado toast at brunch. But don’t let Casper the not-so-friendly dater turn you into a full-time ghostbuster.

Now, I know it’s tempting to blame yourself and analyze every little detail of your past interactions, but trust me, doing the Nancy Drew on this case won’t help. Remember that people’s actions are a reflection of themselves, not you. It’s more likely that your Houdini had his own issues to deal with and chose the coward’s way out rather than facing them head-on.

As for moving on, I’ve got a few tips to help you exorcise those ghostly feelings:

• Feel your feelings: It’s okay to be hurt, confused, or even angry. Let yourself feel those emotions, but don’t let them consume you like a pint of ice cream at midnight. It’s all part of the healing process.
  

• Gather your support squad: Reach out to your friends and family. They’re your rock, your shoulder to cry on, and your personal cheerleading team. They’ll help you see the light at the end of the ghostly tunnel.

• Practice self-care: Treat yourself like the queen (or king) you are. Indulge in your favorite hobbies, binge on that Netflix series you’ve been meaning to watch or take a luxurious bubble bath. Whatever makes you feel good, do it!

• Remind yourself of your worth: You deserve someone who’s willing to stick around and communicate openly. This ghosting incident doesn’t define your value or your ability to find a great partner in the future.

• Get back out there: When you’re ready, jump back into the dating pool. There’s a sea of potential soulmates out there, and you never know when the right one will swim your way!

Remember, dear Haunted, you’re a catch, and any guy who’s willing to ghost you wasn’t worth your time in the first place. So, let the ghost rest in peace and focus on finding someone who’s truly deserving of your awesomeness.

Wishing you a ghost-free future,

Flirt Zone

XO